Pregnancy and after childbirth are life altering happenings which should not be taken lightly, so here I am, writing to those poor suckers who are stuck in the middle…men. This article is for the men who need a little help in keeping the control when their leading ladies are losing theirs.
First thing you guys need to know is that every woman, no matter how happy and content they seem, need to be always told they are beautiful (especially when they look like they swallowed an elephant) and most importantly… SEXY. We as woman feel it is our duty to keep our men always wanting more of us (and not the twenty three year old secretary no matter how unattractive), because we will go one of two ways when pregnant, and that’s, “I’m soooo fat”, or “damn, I look good pregnant”.
Personally, I think ALL woman should feel the latter, because no matter what they look like, they are doing something amazing, and that is keeping a tiny baby alive inside her belly, and NOTHING is more beautiful than that. If you can’t make your woman feel like the most incredibly sexy thing on earth, than you my friend, are in for a very interesting year. It’s simple, really though. Tenderly kiss her neck, tell her how hot she is, gaze into her eyes, even smack her butt on occasion! It will make her feel loved and craved, which in return will not only get you something fun in bed, but you will have a relaxed and happy pregnant woman (which is MUCH better than a cranky one).
Secondly, when you feel she’s about to blow her top (and not in a good way), just smile lovingly and say, “okay honey”. That will help diffuse the situation that she is no doubt, ready to blow way out of proportion. When she is starting to get irritated, because the garbage still hasn’t been taken out, or the socks are still on the floor, the best thing to do is to simply do as asked. If you really want to score some points, do these things before she even asks! If she’s asking something of you that really is not realistic, than pick a relaxed time…perhaps while rubbing her feet and discuss it calmly. Make sure you have valid points before you bring this up. If she still gets huffy puffy, than just tell her you will do your best to figure it out.
One thing men must understand is that when we are pregnant (or just had a baby) and have all these hormones flowing through us, we truly think we are making logical requests and not asking too much. Our brains are at our max and can only handle so much, so the best thing to do, is try to be the best loving husband you can be.
Third, ask us how our day was! Even if we are stay-at-home moms, there is still a lot of stress on us to wash the dishes, clean the house, run errands, get groceries, give the kids a bath, make dinner, and still be desirable to you when you get home…and that’s when we’re not pregnant! So, when we are doing these things while pregnant (or as a new mom), than take a moment and ask us how our day was.
Even if it was a lazy day, it still means the world to us, that at the end of your hard day at work, making hard earned money, you still took the time to ask how our day was. It will make your woman feel that she is important to you and that you are putting her needs before your own. And if she’s still working, than it will mean even more to her!
Fourth, tell her that you love her countless times throughout the day! It’s really all about reassuring your gal that she is the only one you see. If you can do all of these things that I have mentioned, than you will be ahead of the game and you will be able to gauge the situation and control it, because we all know when we’re pregnant, we tend to lose it…and that’s okay, but we need a constant in this time of change. A rock. That is the most important role in your woman’s life and you are it.